What's YOUR Anxiety Style ? (part 3)
Our next type of anxiety is another type of overthinking, but definitely a different flavor.
"Everything seems to be going wrong, and I just can't handle it" Anything that goes wrong, or even just not right, triggers a really big reaction - physical, emotional, or both. And it feels like things are going wrong way too often.
Our brains are wired to look for the negatives preferentially over the positives. It's called "negativity bias" and it's a protective mechanism meant to keep us safe. Back in the day, if you noticed the tiger in the woods, you could run from it. Nowadays, if you notice the grumpy look on the neighbor's face, you can mend the relationship before you need to go begging for toilet paper.
And while it can totally keep you safe, it can also make you anxious and miserable if you're not aware of what's going on and balance it out with reality.
One way to do that is just to bring that anxiety and bias to your attention. When things start to feel overwhelmingly like there's too much bad going on, taking a breath and reminding yourself "this may be my brain skewing things a little" and looking for the reality can be helpful.
But honestly, that's super hard to do when you're feeling overwhelmed - you know the exact times it's needed. So one way around this is to periodically (daily would be ideal) make two columns and list out what really is going wrong and then what's going right.
Only writing out the positives may be helpful for some people, but acknowledging the reality - both positive and negative - can really allow your brain to relax and release some of those fears in a way that ignoring them doesn't. And that's when the real magic happens!
Check back for tips on managing the type of anxiety that makes you feel edgy and restless.
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